Do you still believe in love after ghastly heartbreak? Solutions to reduce your grief
Love is the most beautiful feeling in the world and right now I am referring romantic one! When it happens, you just can’t stop yourself from falling. It is the reason why we are alive. Love has immense power that can make you feel like you are on top of the world. There is nothing wrong when you are in love, everything looks so beautiful and full of hope.
What is the Problem?
But, the problem arises when you start expecting. Why do we always expect so much from the person we love? Even if you are a saint, you have expectations from the one you truly love. Despite knowing the fact that you must not be looking forward, you just can’t stop yourself. You are so ready to do everything for that particular person and it is obvious that you can’t wait for that person to have the same feeling.
Love with your love interest has to be two ways otherwise it starts becoming toxic. Unfortunately, one is blinded by love itself that the person is not able to see that his/her so-called other half is not loving you the way you are. Then you start trying to adjust and compromise in many things unwanting to face the reality. When you don’t want to accept that the person you love is not in love with you, you are digging your own grave.
Though you don’t want to face the reality, it ultimately haunts you one day when you least expect it. You never want to feel this ever in your life. You feel like death would be much easier than the feeling you feel at that time. On top of that, the reminisced memories become more difficult to deal with.
Japanese medical literature in the 1990s describes broken heart,
“Broken heart syndrome ― or Takotsubo cardiomyopathy, as it was first described in ― is a temporary heart condition that looks and feels like a heart attack and is often brought on by stressful situations, like the death of a loved one or a breakup.”
Thus this feeling is mutual for all people no matter you are modern or old-fashioned.
4 Solutions to deal with a ghastly heartbreak?
- First of all, you have to understand that “you are not alone.” The universal truth is that everybody fails so whatever is happening is completely normal.
- Secondly, respect TIME. Because time is the only thing that will heal the broken heart. Crying, insomnia is normal. As time passes, you gradually learn how to become normal like before and collect yourself.
- Thirdly, start taking the tragedy POSITIVELY. Because you REALIZE who are your people and who are not. Your people will support and be with you in your hard times. So, talk it out with them whatever step you are thinking to take because at that particular time you become an emotional fool and are not able to decide pragmatically. Hence, they will be able to guide you in the right way. The only thing you should be is honest and take your decisions very carefully.
- Lastly, after you realize your worth and your people, use your energy where it is needed. After you’re strong, if you forget about the people who helped you and start thinking of taking some revenge/holding grudges then your life will take a reverse gear.