Viral Post of Mother’s Perfect response to her children calling her ‘Fat’ and it’s the lesson we all need to learn!!

Viral Post of Mother’s Perfect response to her children calling her ‘Fat’ and it’s the lesson we all need to learn!!
  • Another Day with an important lesson!
  • The inspirational speaker Allison Kimmey Instagram post was viral when she taught her children a lesson about the ‘Fat’.
  • It was a mother’s perfect response.

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Mother’s Perfect response on Fat to Children

Allison Kimmey posted a photo to Instagram of a mother’s perfect response after her daughter, who was angry when she and her brother needed to get out of the pool and called their mom Kimmey fat.

“My daughter called me fat today.”

That is the first line of an Instagram post written by self-help author Allison Kimmey.

“She was upset that I made them get out of the pool and she told her brother that mama is fat,”

wrote the Cocoa Beach, Florida-based mom.

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My daughter called me fat today. She was upset I made them get out of the pool and she told her brother that mama is fat. I told her to meet me upstairs so we could chat. Me: "what did you say about me?" Her: "I said you were fat, mama, im sorry" Me: "let's talk about it. The truth is, I am not fat. No one IS fat. It's not something you can BE. But I do HAVE fat. We ALL have fat. It protects our muscles and our bones and keeps our bodies going by providing us energy. Do you have fat?" Her: "yes! I have some here on my tummy" Me: "that's right! So do I and so does your brother!" Her brother: "I don't have any fat, I'm the skinniest, I just have muscles" Me: "actually everyone, every single person in the world has fat. But each of us has different amounts." Her brother: " oh right! I have some to protect my big muscles! But you have more than me" Me: "Yes, that's true. Some people have a lot, and others don't have very much. But that doesn't mean that one person is better than the other, do you both understand? Both: "yes, mama" Me: "so can you repeat what I said" Them: "yes! I shouldn't say someone is fat because you can't be just fat, but everyone HAS fat and it's okay to have different fat" Me: "exactly right!" Them: "can we go back to the pool now?" Me: no ?? __________________ Each moment these topics come up i have to choose how I'm going to handle them. Fat is not a bad word in our house. If I shame my children for saying it then I am proving that it is an insulting word and I continue the stigma that being fat is unworthy, gross, comical and undesirable. Since we don't call people fat as an insult in my household, I have to assume she internalized this idea from somewhere or someone else. Our children are fed ideas from every angle, you have to understand that that WILL happen: at a friends house whose parents have different values, watching a tv show or movie, overhearing someone at school- ideas about body image are already filtering through their minds. It is our job to continue to be the loudest, most accepting, positive and CONSISTENT voice they hear. So that it can rise above the rest. Give me a ?? if this resonated w u! Just do you! Xoxo Allie

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Without getting angry Kimmey, 32, took the situation to the lesson and instructed Cambelle, 6, and Graham, 8, to meet her upstairs for a chat. The body-positive health coach recounted their conversation in a lengthy post that has since gone viral.

She told them,

“The truth is, I am not fat. No one IS fat. It’s not something you can BE. But I do HAVE fat. We ALL have fat. It protects our muscles and our bones and keeps our bodies going by providing us energy.”

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I have been in full on interview mode ever since I shared my response to my daughter calling me fat. I wanted to share a couple of the answers to my most frequently asked questions: •Why did you respond the way you did? What is your approach to words like fat as a parent? My intention in sharing the dialogue I have with my children, and this conversation in particular, was to remove the stigma we have around certain words, and to broaden and question the beauty ideal. We don't have to keep doing something just because it's what's always been done before, especially if it isn't right. And in my opinion demonizing the word fat and shaming anyone that has it is not something I'm willing to have exist in my home. I want parents to see that we are the loudest voices our children should hear, regardless of any outside noise, and it is vital that we choose our words carefully and that we are willing to have these hard conversations. •Where is the line between embracing your body and showing children how to be healthy? Contrary to popular belief- weight is not the only indicator of health. I belief that health is a very holistic matter, and that by sharing joyfully our positive relationships to mind, body, and soul, we are then able to leave an impression upon our children that will lead them to naturally make intuitive choices to feel good, and in alignment with their best self. Shaming weight, demonizing foods, and using exercise as punishment has never and will never lead to a positive body image and relationship with food. It is my prerogative to lead my children to be empowered by their choices and to feel completely confident in their ability to be in charge of their bodies. And I do that by being confident in my own body, regardless of my size. Just do you babes, fearlessly and unapologetically. They are watching. Xoxo Allie

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More about Allison’s response and explanation

In explaining to her children that fat is a normal part of the body, instead of a body type to feel ashamed of, she taught them a powerful lesson about society’s perception of weight – and how to treat others with kindness and respect.

She explained in her viral Instagram post,

“Fat is not a bad word in our house. If I shame my children for saying it then I am proving that it is an insulting word and I continue the stigma that being fat is unworthy, gross, comical and undesirable. Our children are fed ideas from every angle, you have to understand that that WILL happen: at a friends house whose parents have different values, watching a tv show or movie, overhearing someone at school- ideas about body image are already filtering through their minds. It is our job to continue to be the loudest, most accepting, positive and CONSISTENT voice they hear. So that it can rise above the rest.”

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✋?STOP SCROLLING✋?Hey babes!! Up bright and early with a very important message that you NEED to hear! Sometimes I get all cozy and snuggled up in my little body positive and self love bubble. It's warm there, and there's rainbows and the best jams and only the most magical people. I have worked tirelessly to make this little bubble for myself. But sometimes I have to take a day trip to "real world" and get a little dose of what I call *this is why I do what you do* What I mean by that is: there's a lot of hate in this world…and people are ready to bring you down at any chance of finally feeling more worthy themselves. I see aggression in people but I see pain too. I'm not here to educate the unwilling or make excuses for the ignorant- but I am constantly reminded that I am here for you, beautiful soul, the one that doesn't have your impenetrable self love bubble built yet and can't see a way out of judgement and self depreciating thoughts. And there's something I need you to know: no matter how much you change- your circumstances, your body, your finances, your job, your relationship status – You are worthy of JOY, LOVE, OPPORTUNITY, and probably the most important and least received: RESPECT. NOW. NEXT MONTH. NEXT YEAR. THIS ENTIRE LIFETIME. IN ANOTHER LIFE. FOREVER. INFINITY. And on that same note, allowing others to shine in THEIR light will never dim what only YOU can offer to the world. So let's light it up! The whole dam world. With love, and kindness, and pure joy, and respect! And babe, if you want to come inside my self love bubble- there's an invitation waiting for you with the link in my profile! Isn't it time you started allowing yourself to feel worthy of these things? Just do you babes! Xoxo Allie _______ #justdoyoucrew #bopo #bodypos #bodypositive #selflove #transformationtuesday #confidence #youareworthy #embracethesquish #everybodyisbeautiful

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Allison’s inspirational lesson

Kimmey who also has the upcoming children’s book Glitter Stripes has also the inspirational lesson on them. Being a person with lots of fats she had her own struggle before she started accepting her. She struggled with restrictive eating and consumed under 1000 calories a day.

She added to Us. After the birth of Campbell in 2012, Kimmey hit rock bottom,

“Even as a size 2/4 on my wedding and honeymoon, I could only see my perceived flaws. I had visions of her growing up and looking exactly like me,” she recalls. “I verbally said that I wished that she wouldn’t look like me. And at that moment I realized that I needed to change . . . not only for myself but for my entire family — especially my children.”

Now a size 16/18, Kimmey has never been happier and uses social media as a platform to inspire others. In March, she shared a photo of herself beaming in a bikini.

“Who decided that I should be ashamed of my cellulite, my size, my rolls, my stripes? Who decided that I shouldn’t feel encouraged to take up space and be seen? I don’t know who decided that, but I do know that I choose each day to not heed the expectations of society’s standards. I do know that I deserve to exist. And I do know that I am worthy of happiness and love. And I know you are too.”

We appreciate the positive vibe she creates and the powerful message!