• As if ghosting was not bad enough for dating people, there is another dating trend that is spookier than ghosting!
• It is zombieing and is more irksome and bad than ghosting.

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In ghosting, the opposite dating partner does a vanishing act and suddenly stops responding or communicating.

Whereas, in zombieing after the initial disappearance, the online date decides to make a comeback.

Zombieing-the higher level of ghosting on dating apps

Ghosting is a rude and bad trend that is commonly and increasingly seen on dating apps. It is a very irritating trend in which the online dating partner would suddenly make a vanishing act.

The user would disappear into thin air with no trace and you will be left wondering as to what happened.

And now, there is another trend noticed. It is called Zombieing and in it, the person who has earlier disappeared now decides to do a comeback and pretends as if nothing happened. The term comes from the word zombie. The zombies die and then miraculously return from the dead.

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The ill effects of the dating trend

Ghosting is an act of rudeness and a sign of ill manners. It implies that the person who ghosts lacks communication skills. It is an extremely hurtful act and talks of the lowness and cheapness of a person.

But it leaves behind heartbreak and injury to the heart. And zombieing adds insult to this injury. It is similar to adding salt to the wound-very pain. And the pretension as if nothing happened is worse!

What is the reason for the vanishing person to return? What exactly do they imply by these to and fro acts? Experts state that the reasons for zombieing can be varied. Marla Renee Stewart, MA is a sex expert for Lovers. The latter is an adult wellness brand.

She told refinery29:

“I believe that if someone is zombieing, it’s because they’re finding themselves wanting to go back to a source of entertainment.”

The person might have gotten bored of the relationship and later decided to come back for some extra entertainment or difference.

More reasons for the rude action

Kate Balestrieri, PsyD, is an expert for the relationship app called Clarity and she has also founded Modern Intimacy.

According to this Beverly Hills-based sex expert, it is an attention-seeking behavior:

“They want to see if they can still get a reaction. They’re using it as a way to get validation if they’re feeling low about themselves,”

There may be some kinder reasons for this action as well. Kate explains:

“They might realize that they missed out on an opportunity to get to know you and they’re hoping that there’s still a chance at that,”

Alternatively, they really may be totally lousy at communication with no skills there. Besides, they may have been totally misguided and want to rectify it. The sex expert further revealed:

“It can happen in a benign way,”

“People think they’re being nice. Sometimes they reach out because they feel guilty and they want to see if you’re angry at them or if you’re okay.”

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