Is your relationship facing unhealthy power imbalance? Fix that!

Is your relationship facing unhealthy power imbalance? Fix that!
Power Imbalance (Source: Beliefnet)
  • Power is the ability of one person to exert control and influence within a relationship
  • Controlling your partner in a relationship is dangerous and unhealthy
  • It is important to have a balanced power in a relationship

In the context of a relationship, Power is the ability of one person to exert control and influence within a relationship. When it comes to relationships, it means taking charge fixing issues, getting things done, and offering a shoulder to cry for the vulnerable one. Power should be equal in a happy relationship so the other one does not feel burned. The power imbalance can destroy a relationship.

Power Imbalance in a relationship
Power Imbalance in a relationship (Source: Love to Pivot)

Here are the signs you need to look for:

  • If your partner makes all the decisions and does not feel the need for your opinion. Let it be what you are having dinner, buying things, watching TV, or anything your partner does not ask your opinion.
  • You feel lonely and isolated most of the time. Your partner usually forbids you to pursue their social life. You mostly feel alone despite being in a relationship.
  • There is not an equal work distribution and the common house chores like cooking, cleaning, and raising children are divided unequally.
  • You feel anxiety and tension with your partner and it is like they are walking on eggshells. A form of power imbalance is the passive-aggressive behavior of your partner. Likewise, you may feel a physical threat around your partner even though the abuse may not occur.

Controlling your partner in a relationship is dangerous and unhealthy. Your partner might not be able to be open with you and share how they are feeling and end up being hurt. While some people might feel safe if their partner control things but it might occur as a burden to the partner who has to take all the decisions or do every work. It is important to have a healthy power balance in a relationship.

Power Imbalance in a relationship
Power Imbalance in a relationship (Source: Insider)

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Ways to balance power in a relationship

It is important to have a balance in a relationship so you should make your boundaries clear about shared responsibility. Having a good conversation and finding out how your partner feels is important. Even though it is impossible to have a 50/50 power split but a healthy power balance can be maintained with transparency and if both are on the same page when it comes to things.

Some basic things are:

  • You should be honest and open about how you feel about the power distribution
  • Having a clear communication
  • Willing to put in the work and considering the opinion of your partner
  • Giving attention to your partner and meeting their emotional needs
  • Giving respect to each other and each other’s opinion
  • Having a self time is necessary to have a healthy relationship
  • Putting yourself in your partner’s shoe
Healthy relationship
Healthy relationship (Source: HelpGuide)

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